SEPTEMBER 3, 2004 (FRIDAY)
It's always been a Filipino tradition that children stay at home with their parents, even if they're already working or starting a family of their own. I suppose that it comes with the whole concept of hospitality - after all, we are known for our warmth and our generosity in the sharing of our homes. Guests are always welcome, even in the wee hours of the morning, and although the spaces are usually cramped and sometimes you end up sleeping like sardines in a can, as long as there's a roof over your head and breakfast on the table, then you're all right.
And even though I've known a lot of people have made it out in Manila on their own - particularly those who came from the provinces - home is still a place you can go back to, not a place that gives forces you to get out by October. I mean, even though I am also planning to save up enough money to get a place of my own as soon as I can, I know that my parents will allow me to stay in the house until such a time. Which is why I don't understand how some parents can be so heartless so as to force their children out of their house because "it's too expensive" to keep them. Whether you're 2 or 21, it doesn't matter: I mean, you're their flesh and blood - I just don't understand the mindset some people have when it comes to matters like this.
And I'm sure that they're nice people and all, and of course they are kind and generous and all that - of course of course of course. But still, when your mum or dad tells you to bugger off by a certain date - and particularly if you're still in school or still have to earn enough to start living independently - and then just says that they'll "pray for you," then that's just nuts. Because I cannot fathom any parent, ANY PARENT AT ALL, who will tell their children that, as if it's so easy to leave them behind, as if they are mere packages that can just be set outside the door if you don't like it. I mean...please. As the Black Eyed Peas sang, "Where's the love?"
I'm sorry. I just don't get it. I just don't.